Has his drinking been an issue that seems uncontrollable? Are your important memories ruined by his bad habits? Are you feeling jealous and resentful of other friends and family that seem to have it so much better than you?
I remember feeling that way too. When my son was born my husband was too sick to even show up at the hospital. All the nurses assumed my Dad was the father. One of the happiest times of my life became one of the most disappointing and hurtful moments. There was no more denying that he had major issues. But we do deny sometimes, don’t we? We allow ourselves to think this craziness is normal. We allow ourselves to believe our pain is not justified. Or somehow we are being overly sensitive.
I am here to remind you, my wonderful friends – what’s normal and what’s not. If you want a functional relationship with a man – stop accepting dysfunction in your life.
Verbal and physical abuse (including mistreatment of our children)
Drinking until they pass out
Lying and covering up alcohol or drug use
Irresponsible behavior (over spending, not coming home)
It’s totally acceptable (and necessary) for you to desire a man who is:
Trustworthy (follows through with his promises)
Makes healthy lifestyle choices
A good friend and role model for others
Provider and contributor to your family
Shows up and calls when he says he will
Start praying for God to teach you what is best for you, to direct your path and help you carry the load. You are not powerless, you are powerful! You can have normal! Did you find this helpful? Please leave a comment and share… we LOVE hearing from you!