Threatening, begging and pleading don’t change behaviors. Especially with alcoholics or addicts. You must “teach” them consequences and boundaries with your actions not your words.
If they start to drink in the house: pick up your keys, get the kids in the car and leave.
If they start to yell at you on the phone: politely hang up. Tell them, “I care about how you feel, and you sound very upset but I will not tolerate you talking to me like that. Call me back when you have calmed down and are ready to be respectful”. Then HANG UP.
When you set your boundaries you must keep in mind Proverbs 31:25. ”She clothed herself with dignity and strength and laughed without fear of the future”.
You may not: yell, call names, throw plates, give him the silent treatment, manipulate or guilt trip him. We are being called by God, to be is dignified and self controlled with strength from the Holy Spirit. If you don’t feel like you have those traits, pray for them.
Leave your loved one at the foot of the cross. God is much more powerful and mightier than addiction.
Having a hard time with this? You are not alone. This is a safe place so please leave a comment and encourage one another. Let’s do this together:)